Monthly Archives: January 2015

Who are we really?


I remember it as if it happened yesterday. My daughter was in her final school year and the matric farewell was drawing near. She came home from a weekend with her father, with her matric farewell dress in her hands. I was devastated. Her stepmother decided to buy the the dress without any prior discussion with me. I was angry. Very angry. So angry that I ranted for more than 20 minutes. I ranted because a privilege was taken from me, the privilege of going through the whole dress hunting experience with my daughter. I felt neglected. I felt worthless. And all those emotions fueled my anger towards a point where I was screaming and swearing at my daughter.

Did it make any difference? No.

I was painfully reminded of that day today.

We place so much value on ourselves. We want to get credit. We want to be respected. We want to be treated fairly. We want to be obeyed. We want to be served. We like our positions in society. We like our status symbols. We need to be needed and we want to be wanted. And it doesn’t always happen. People fail us. Children disobey us. Spouses misunderstand us. People lie to us. People cheat us. People compare us to others. People belittle us. And then? A volcano of anger erupts. Just like my volcano that night, many years ago.

We place our own self worth so high that we forget about the people we are dealing with. We shoot words like bullets, intending to hurt and damage. We carelessly fling statements that tear hearts apart. All because things did not go our way. And afterwards? Long after the tantrum, the words linger in the hearts of the hurt.

Getting angry is not a sin. What you do and say while you are angry, is another story.

I can never undo what I did that night. My daughter will always remember the beauty of her matric farewell along with the bitter of my anger.

Ephesians 4:26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.

Control your anger.


silent reflections


The last two months of 2014 was a wild roller-coaster ride that I could hardly keep up with. Looking back I get a knot in my stomach and my heart starts to beat a little faster. Stress. Lots of it. But, 2014 is over.

2015 is ahead! What are you going to do differently this year? I am not keen on new year’s resolutions, but I am going to pen down some things that I am going to change.

The first one is to increase my positivity and level of faith even more. If you have been following this blog for a while, you will know that I am generally a very positive person. And I really dislike negative people around me. The first verse I am taking with me into 2015 is this:

1 Corinthians 2:16 “…. But we have the mind of Christ”. 

I can because I have the mind of Christ. It’s that simple, yet that profound. Let me get your brain rolling on this one:

  • I can forgive those who have hurt me, because I have the mind of Christ.
  • I can make wise and informed decisions, because I have the mind of Christ.
  • I can overcome the problems I am facing, because I have the mind of Christ.

I can. I can. I can because I have the mind of Christ.

Secondly I am going to slow down even more. I started slowing down last year when I started blogging about my Mary Moments in a Martha world. I loved it. Towards the end of the year I neglected it and the race of life simply consumed me. I don’t want that to happen again this year. I want to slow down. I want to have more Mary Moments. I want to take the roads less travelled, the scenic ones, even if my travel time increases. I want to make time for the important people and the important things. I want to be still. So my second verse for 2015 is simply this:

Psalm 46:10 Be still, and know that I am God.

Hopefully this year, my blogging schedule will not be as erratic as last year!