One person feels offended. Another is listening to the accusations. Soon the listening becomes unbearable and a screaming match starts. Words become like bullets, meant to hurt. Aimed at the heart. A bullet fired can never be reversed back into the barrel of the gun. Words fired at the heart of another can never be reversed into the mouth from where it came. Too late. Sorry is a worthless word. It cannot heal.
King Solomon must have seen this scenario a couple of times in his life. Well, with 3000 women, he probably saw it daily. And with the Godly wisdom he had, he penned the following:
Proverbs 15:1 – A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 15:28 – The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.
Proverbs 18:13 – To answer before listening — that is folly and shame.
Jesus added to it:
Matthews 5:39 – But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.
We call ourselves Christians, but we often wage word wars just like the world. Where is the fruit of the Spirit? Where is the self control?
If we want to live Jesus, we have to learn to keep our mouths shut. We should rather apologise even if we don’t think it’s fair. In doing so, we will turn away the anger instead of stirring it up with one word calling forth the next.
Think about this for a moment – that person we called worthless was created in the image of God too. He / she is also a child of the Most High King. How dare we refer to somebody made in the image of Jehovah as worthless, useless, stupid, etc etc? Who do we think we are?
If Jesus stood before us today, what excuse could we possibly offer for our war of words? None.
It’s time for the children of God to start acting the part. Going to church is not enough. Being in some sort of ministry is not enough. We need walk the walk and talk the talk. That means we have to start bearing fruit. The fruit of the Spirit.
Galatians 5:22, 23 – But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
May God help us. May God heal the wounds we caused with our words. May God restore what we broke down.